America’s infatuation with Valentine’s Day and sending the message “I love you” has been on display in nearly every store window and newspaper ad for weeks. According to the National Retail Federation, this year Americans spent a record $17 billion on Valentine’s Day. More than 200 million valentines were exchanged, not including those used in the traditional classroom exchanges. Why do we always need to make it bigger and better? Somehow the innocent message of “be mine” and “you’re loved” has morphed into “be mine as long as you spend more than $120,” whether you’re telling your sweetheart or your kid. When I was a kid, it was customary to talk about Valentine’s Day weeks before Feb. 14. In school we talked about love and respect for each other and ways we could show appreciation for each other, be it to mom, dad, brother, sister or friends. We would talk about unconditional love and love without expectations. How quickly we return to the harsh words, bickering and conditional love with expectations. As a counselor for high-risk teens, I have spent the last 20-plus years working with families in crisis. And I know when families are in crisis, they are not necessarily thinking about ways to show love and respect to each other. For many the words “I love you” don’t even come out of their mouths. They are usually caught up in trying to solve the crisis, deny the crisis is happening, or point fingers at each other and place blame, saying, “It’s your fault.” Parents would be dismayed to discover that most kids doubt that they are genuinely and unconditionally loved. There is more to it than taking children to soccer and buying them the things they want – but even good parents have little room in their busy schedules for real quality time with their kids. And this is crucial – especially once they become teens and it seems that you can’t relate to your own children anymore. So this past Valentine’s Day I paused to think about ways to love our kids. The following tips on loving your kids can be acted upon on a daily basis starting today, right now, when they walk in the door after school or when you come home from work tonight. Say the word “love” a lot. Be careful not to criticize; simply tell them a better way. If you withdraw your attention, avoid withdrawing your love. Teach the principles of “why,” not just “what” to do or not to do. Discipline with love, especially if you are angry. If you “punish” or “take away,” follow up with love. Remember that children often reflect what they have or have not been taught. Teach them to trust the truth by experiencing you as a role model of the truth and a model of loving them for telling the truth. Be patient, not just tolerant. Ask them what they need from you – and do whatever you can to meet those needs. When you are stressed and unavailable, help them know that your condition is about your life, not them, and reaffirm your love. Remember that children often need love the most when they “deserve” it the least. Listen to them a lot. Avoid interrupting. Give them your undivided attention. Help them learn the feeling of regret, not just to say they are sorry. Apologize when you make a mistake or do something you regret. Teach them about ethics and values and principles they can apply in choices and decision-making. Never make fun of them, shame them or blame them. It’s not their “fault.” It’s an indication of what they need, or what they need to learn, or what they need to unlearn. Tell them how much you like being with them, if you mean it. If you don’t, examine what about the relationship dynamics – at that moment or in general – affects your not feeling that way. Then find a way to change that from within yourself. Expect and support their best; don’t expect or require perfection. Life is about progress, not perfection. Praise their efforts; avoid judging them. Avoid comparing them to anyone else; instead, help them develop their unique self and way of being. Know that they will respect what you say if they respect who you are. Encourage them to share, and teach them to share, but don’t make them share. If they feel enough love in their lives they will be able to share; if they cannot share, it means they need to feel more love. Hug and touch them often when they are young. When they are older, instead of saying, “Give me a hug,” say, “I would like a hug, would you?” Let hugging be their choice. Help them learn the feeling of gratitude, not just to say thank you. Give them space when they need it. Praise more, criticize less. Know that a child experiencing love will express love. A child who does not act lovingly needs to experience more love and feel more loved. Until then, behavior changes you attempt may not be sustainable. Help them learn how and why to save money. Be an effective role model in this regard. Avoid emphasizing how much something costs. Help them discover what has meaning and purpose and feels good to them. Keep the promises you make. If you do not keep your word, acknowledge that. Help them understand the circumstances or choices that precipitated the change in your plans. They will notice if keeping your word becomes a pattern. Answer their questions. If you do not like their friends, teach them the qualities to look for in friends. Go to their games and events; get to know their teachers and coaches. Be consistent. Let them tell you how they feel. Help them learn what their feelings are and how to express them. Give them lots of compliments … and mean it. If you do not or cannot compliment them, examine why. Suggest better behaviors when they act out. Teach first. Reward often. Be understanding. Punish last. When they withdraw, offer love instead of demands or threats. Nurture them with good food, prepare their favorite meals, and help them make wise nutritional choices. Teach them to be responsible according to their own developmental age; avoid using them to do tasks that are your responsibility. When you notice behavioral changes, be especially available so they can talk about what is going on. Be understanding when they have a difficult day. Teach them to be on time and to keep their word and their commitments – and model that for them. Love them no matter what – and especially affirm your love when you are feeling angry. If you are feeling love for them at the time you express anger, your anger is safe. Otherwise, they experience anger as having the power to displace love. Here’s the challenge. I have suggested 44 ways to love your kids. There are 365 days in each year. I want to challenge every one of you to come up with 321 more ways to love your kids and implement at least one of these suggestions on a daily basis. Cary Quashen is a certified addiction specialist and the founder and president of the ACTION Parent & Teen Support Program that meets every Thursday evening beginning at 7 p.m. at the Antelope Valley PAU located at 43423 Division Street, (Division Street and K-4) in the Courtyard complex in Lancaster. Quashen may be reached at (661) 713-3006. The ACTION Hotline number is 1-800-FOR TEENs. To post your own stories and photos, log on to valleynews.com.160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set! Back then, we were asked to find a way to show our love, be it in an art project, an essay, or a love letter. I remember the fourth-grade art project well. It cost 50 cents to make in those days – a homemade project that began with a discarded oatmeal box, brown wrapping paper, string, my favorite candy hearts, colored markers and glue. When finished, it would store the coveted love notes from Valentine’s Day. My prized valentines were from my parents, the ones that said they “loved me no matter what.” Now I keep a box, an updated version, one that holds the valentines my own kids have given to me, their way of saying, “I love you.” So now it’s over for another year, the day we tell them we love them. What about the other 364 days of the year? How do we best show love and support for our loved ones, especially our kids?
Let the craziness begin.It’s transfer deadline day and Man United have been linked with a number of players.Goalkeeper David De Gea is said to be close to agreeing a new contract, though his advisors are apparently attempting to have a release clause inserted given that he has been linked with Real Madrid.Sadly, for manager Louis van Gaal, though, Kevin Strootman has been ruled out for the rest of the season because of that dodgy knee of his, according to Roma boss Rudi Garcia.Keep up to date with all the latest transfer rumours with the talkSPORT live blog. 5 Marquinhos: Man United talking to PSG for £35m defender? Click right for more United gossip – Louis van Gaal’s no.1 target, Kevin Strootman, is out for the season because of a knee injury, but there is still some business to be done going by the latest gossip. The Sun reported over the weekend that Van Gaal would try and push through a £35m deal for PSG defender Marquinhos. Apparently the two clubs have been in talks over the past two weeks and the young Brazilian would definitely ease the manager’s defensive worries. 5 Adnan Januzaj: Old Trafford winger to gain experience elsewhere? Click right for more United gossip – In addition to bringing in Aaron Lennon from Tottenham, it is also being rumoured that Everton would like to bring in Adnan Januzaj on loan for the rest of the season. He has a lot of talent but you have to show that talent in matches and also in training sessions, manager Van Gaal said, following the player’s first Premier League start since November in the 3-1 win against Leicester. He is still rated highly by the boss. Darren Fletcher: Much loved midfielder to join Baggies NOT Hammers? Click right for more United gossip – He is well liked in Manchester and by Van Gaal, who would like to see him play more football, a reason he was willing to grant him a free transfer to West Ham. That move has fallen through, however, with the Hammers preferring a loan and now West Brom are in the frame to land one of United’s vice-captains. Kevin De Bruyne: Wolfsburg playmaker to move ALONG WITH World Cup winner Hummels in ‘£67m double swoop’? Click right for more United gossip – On Sunday, the Express reported United would make a huge double bid for Wolfsburg playmaker De Bruyne and Dortmund defender Mats Hummels, whose club are bottom of the Bundesliga and two points from safety. If the World Cup winner doesn’t jump ship in winter, then surely he will seek pastures new in the summer should Dortmund go down. De Bruyne is one of the stand out players in Germany this season, but Warren Haughton, talkSPORT’s transfer man, tweeted to say that having spoken to De Bruyne’s agent, the player will not leave in this window. Is that him launching some clever countermeasures? 5 5 5 Anderson: Small fee for large star? – It is unlikely that Anderson’s departure will see a similar outpouring of emotion Fletcher’s exit causes, but nonetheless the Brazilian is finally leaving, though a fee is still to be agreed. Juan Mata confirmed his rotund team-mate is moving back to South America with Internacional the apparent destination. It’s likely they will need this forklift to get him out of Old Trafford though…
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Out front with the Derby talk was the entourage of Stevie Wonderboy, headed by owner Merv Griffin, who had crooned “My Old Kentucky Home” as soon as the colt won the Breeders’ Cup Juvenile in October in New York. And practically everyone on the premises was guilty of getting ahead of themselves, many of the nearly 9,000 fans on-site having been drawn to the track by the prospect of watching Stevie Wonderboy take his first strides toward Churchill Downs. ARCADIA – Whoa, slow down. That seemed to be the message at Santa Anita on Saturday, not so much for the horses as for the people. The damp air was full of Kentucky Derby talk, even though the First Saturday in May was more than 100 days away and anything like a pecking order among the nation’s best 3-year-olds is sheer illusion here at the very start of the prep season. AD Quality Auto 360p 720p 1080p Top articles1/5READ MOREGift Box shows no rust in San Antonio Stakes win at Santa Anita If the wintry weather wasn’t somebody’s way of saying that January is too early to fit a horse for a rose garland, then the result of the San Rafael Stakes certainly was. Stevie Wonderboy finished second, a good effort that shouldn’t discourage his handlers but serves as a reminder that there’s competition out here. Brother Derek led from gate to wire, making an argument that he’s the best in California and jumping into the first flight of prospects for the May 6 Derby. “We’re going to have to map it out a little stronger now, more exactly,” trainer Dan Hendricks said of a Derby prep schedule that had been a little vague before now. If you believe that karma influences things as mundane as trifectas and pick-sixes, you have to believe Brother Derek won the San Rafael precisely because Hendricks and owner Cecil N. Peacock didn’t give in to the temptation to look ahead to Louisville. Peacock, a Calgary oilman, was asked if he has started to think of, well, you know what. “I never talk about the Derby at all,” he said at the edge of the Santa Anita winner’s circle. “Some people start talking about the Derby when they win a 3-furlong race. Not me. The Derby is a long way away.” He’s right. Let’s talk about the Derby anyway. When the previous season’s 2-year-old champion makes his 3-year-old debut, it’s like the hostess lifting her fork at a dinner party, time to dig into the multi-course feast of speculation known as the Derby preps. Stevie Wonderboy reached for the cutlery Saturday. After closing 2005 with victories in the Del Mar Futurity and Breeders’ Cup Juvenile, he’s a lock to be given the 2-year-old championship at the Jan. 23 Eclipse Awards ceremony in Beverly Hills. The gloomy fact that no 2-year-old champion has won the Derby since the 26 years since Spectacular Bid, and no Juvenile winner has won the Derby in the 22 years the Breeders’ Cup has been around, didn’t hurt the anticipation a bit. Having plotted a three-race prep calendar, trainer Doug O’Neill went against the trend toward long winter breaks, making Stevie Wonderboy the rare top-ranked Derby type to run in January. When Brother Derek joined the field for the $150,000 San Rafael, it turned this into something even more unusual, a January battle between California’s two best 3-year-olds. “Winning 10 (thousand-dollar) claimers is great,” said O’Neill, enjoying his debut on the Derby Trail. “But there’s nothing like the buzz this creates.” Hendricks had talked about scratching Brother Derek if rain led to a hard track. The morning downpour stopped, though, and by race time it was sunny and the track was fast. Brother Derek and jockey Alex Solis, who had finished fourth in the Juvenile before winning the Hollywood Futurity over a Stevieless field in December, seized the early lead. Stevie Wonderboy and Garrett Gomez, who had perfected the come-from-behind charge, dropped back to last in the four-horse race. Brother Derek ($4.60) then did what the day demanded. He slowed down. Able to set a comfortable pace, the California-bred son of Benchmark felt Stevie Wonderboy coming on his outside at the top of the stretch but dug in and kept his 1-length margin all the way to the finish while covering the mile in a strong 1:36.11. It was 3 lengths back to Wanna Runner, and Woody Be Quick was a distant last. Disappointment for the Stevie Wonderboy camp? “Oh, big-time, yeah,” O’Neill said. But O’Neill thought his colt ran “dynamite,” considering his 77-day layoff and Brother Derek’s conditioning and tactical edges. “Anytime you give a horse like Brother Derek an easy lead like that, you’re in trouble,” O’Neill said. “I wouldn’t trade horses with (Hendricks), but I’d love to have that horse. As the fields get bigger and the paces get more realistic, I think we’ll do better.” O’Neill said he still plans to send Stevie Wonderboy into the March 4 Santa Catalina Stakes. Hendricks, speaking from the wheelchair to which he has been confined since a 2004 wheelchair accident, indicated his plans for Brother Derek are less defined. One-race-at-a-time is working out so far. “That horse (Stevie Wonderboy) might still be a better horse,” Hendricks said. “But I definitely had the advantage today.” Kevin Modesti’s column appears in the Daily News three days a week. 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Kenny: Must intervene, says MEPPat the Cope Gallagher MEP has called on the Taoiseach, Enda Kenny, to intervene on the issue of the introduction of the HGV Road User Levy.This will see the introduction of a discriminatory tax by the British government on Irish hauliers using Northern Irish roads from the 1st of April.Mr. Gallagher specifically has urged the Taoiseach “to convene an emergency meeting of the North South Ministerial Council in order for Northern Ireland to be exempted from the HGV Road User Levy”. Pat the Cope stated “The North South Ministerial Council was established following the Good Friday Agreement, to develop cooperation within the island of Ireland on economic matters including transport. It is vitally important that the Government uses this body which was established to resolve issues such as this. Furthermore, I believe that the UK authorities must take into consideration the funding being provided by the Irish taxpayer for road developments in Northern Ireland, as part of the Good Friday Peace agreement.”Pat the Cope concluded that “an emergency meeting is required as this discriminatory and penal tax will be in place in ten days time. The proposed tax could cost hauliers travelling from Donegal to Dublin as much as €30/40 per trip. The charge of €10 per crossing is based on a 24 hour rate commencing at midnight, therefore, the cost is double if a vehicle leaves Donegal on one evening and returns after midnight on the next day. I am extremely fearful that companies right along the border may relocate to Northern Ireland with serious implications for jobs.” TAOISEACH MUST STOP BRITISH FROM CHARGING DONEGAL HGV DRIVERS – MEP was last modified: March 21st, 2014 by John2Share this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Telegram (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to share on Skype (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window) Tags:donegalHGV chargeIrish GovernmentPat The Cope GallagherUK
So four years after 9-11 – and 10 weeks after the bungled federal response to Hurricane Katrina – it’s still not clear that Washington has figured out how to properly distribute homeland security funds. And that gives us even less reason to believe officials in Washington.160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set! If you believe officials in Washington, then at last, more than four years after 9-11, we’ve nailed down a sensible formula for doling out federal homeland security funds. Of course, if you believe officials in Washington, you’re probably too trusting for your own good. For decades, the nation’s political establishment neglected to take the terrorist threat seriously – not after countless attacks abroad and not after the first bombing of the World Trade Center in 1993. Then came 9-11, which supposedly changed everything, or at least everything but Washington’s tradition of pork-barrel politics. So even though federal funding for homeland security has skyrocketed in the past four years, it’s been distributed not on the basis of need, but politics. That’s why Wyoming, a state that faces no serious terrorist threat, has received seven times the per-capita homeland security funding as target-rich California. All that is supposed to have changed in the $31.9 billion homeland security bill recently approved by Congress. Under new funding formulas, money will go out on the basis of risk factors. Or so the politicians say. But there are doubts. For starters, even though distribution formulas have changed, the total number of dollars allotted has been cut. So it’s possible that California could get a larger share of a smaller pie, which could actually amount to funding lower than previous levels. Congressional Republicans counter that the cuts aren’t a factor because the Department of Homeland Security has yet to allocate some $6.6 billion to state and local governments. But that raises the question of how those funds will be appropriated, so no one really seems to know what to make of the new system. “It could mean less funding as a whole, but more funding for high-risk cities,” says Tom Ludica, Long Beach manager of government affairs. “Or it could be the other way around, and there could be less money overall for cities. I don’t have a projection on that.”
AD Quality Auto 360p 720p 1080p Top articles1/5READ MOREWalnut’s Malik Khouzam voted Southern California Boys Athlete of the Week “They weren’t letting us pass downfield,” said Manning, the NFL’s MVP the last two seasons. “It used to be teams wouldn’t let us run the ball and we had to throw. Now it’s the opposite. They won’t let us pass.” The Rams, playing without ailing coach Mike Martz, lost quarterback Marc Bulger to a sprained shoulder in the second quarter after he led St. Louis to the early lead. But it was almost all defense for Indianapolis. Dwight Freeney chipped in with a forced fumble for the Colts (6-0) and Robert Mathis took over the NFL sack lead with seven — he has at least one in every game this season. That provided the field position that allowed Indianapolis to run 36 consecutive plays in St. Louis territory in the last 27 minutes of the game. “We got down early but we didn’t panic on the sideline,” Colts coach Tony Dungy said. “We kept our spirits up and we played a lot better in the second, third and early in the fourth quarter.” INDIANAPOLIS — When the Indianapolis Colts score 45 points, it’s usually because of Peyton Manning and the offense. Not Monday night. Cato June had two interceptions that set up two touchdowns and Nick Harper had an interception and a fumble recovery to set up scores as the Colts overcame a 17-0 deficit to beat the St. Louis Rams 45-28 and remain the NFL’s only unbeaten team. Edgerrin James helped things along with 143 yards rushing on 23 carries and three touchdowns and Manning had two touchdown passes, including a record-setter to Marvin Harrison. Bulger, who was 6-of-8 for 121 yards and a touchdown, was hurt when he was blocked by David Thornton on the first of the interceptions by June, a third-year linebacker and former college safety who leads the NFL with five picks. It came less than three minutes into the second quarter and led to James’ 8-yard touchdown run. Jamie Martin took over at quarterback for the Rams and could do little but throw underneath until late in the game. He threw a 9-yard touchdown pass to Cam Cleeland for a meaningless TD that made it 45-28. And Steven Jackson, who had 46 yards in a 162-yard first quarter for the Rams (2-4) could do little after that, finishing with 88 yards on 17 carries. St. Louis had just over 100 yards in the second and third quarters, when the Colts made their run. Manning finished 22-of-32 for 191 yards. His 6-yard TD pass to Harrison with 9:25 left in the game set a record of 86 TDs for a passer-receiver combination. Manning and Harrison had been tied at 85 with San Francisco’s Steve Young and Jerry Rice. That came after the defense had pushed Indianapolis back to its own 2 on a sack by Mathis. St. Louis was coached by assistant head coach Joe Vitt with Martz out indefinitely with a bacterial infection of the heart valve. The Rams took the early lead on a 21-yard run by Jackson on the first series of the game; a 29-yard field goal by Jeff Wilkins; and a 57-yard TD pass from Bulger to Kevin Curtis, who ran right by a stumbling Jason David. The Colts also stumbled on offense. The normally sure-handed Harrison let a potential TD pass slip off his fingers and Dominic Rhodes fumbled a kickoff to set up Wilkins’ short field goal. But they finally came back with TDs in the second quarter. James went in from a yard out on a drive set up by June’s interception — the play on which Bulger was hurt. Then Manning found Reggie Wayne from 3 yards at the end of an 86-yard TD drive to cut it to 17-14. Wilkins’ 49-yard field goal completed the scoring. 160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set!
Tags: AFCON 2019Al-lttadJeddahHassan WasswaTala’ea El GaishtopUganda Cranes Hassan Wasswa (left) has played 76 games for the Uganda Cranes. (PHOTO/Courtesy)Unlike AFCON 2017, Ugandan players are ripping big from the just concluded edition in 2019.The Cranes who reached the last 16 of the competition before bowing out to eventual finalist Senegal, are seeing a host of players land deals at different clubs.Five of them, including Khalid Aucho, Abdu Lumala, Tadeo Lwanga, Timothy Awany and Allan Kyambadde have already moved to other sides.Aucho, Lumala, Lwanga and Kyambadde joined different Egyptian clubs while Awany moved to Israel’s Ashdod FC.The movement has continued on Monday, August 12th, with Cranes captain Hassan Wasswa sealing a deal to join Al-lttihad Jeddah.Wasswa who deputized Denis Onyango as the team’s vice captain in Egypt, is believed to have secured a one-year contract that will run until August 1st 2020.The energetic defender has been out of contract for a while ever since leaving Egyptian side Tala’ea El Gaish, towards the end of last year.He had a stellar tournament, featuring in all four of Uganda’s games and despite already being in his 30s, it is easy to understand why he has secured the move.According to sources, he flew out of the country on Monday and he is expected to be unveiled at his new club the following day.Speaking before departure, Wasswa could not hide his delight to have secured a new club.“Yes, it is time to work and play club football again, noted Wasswa.“I am extremely have to have gotten a new job in Saudi Arabia.“Every time i get to play football for a club and the Uganda Cranes, i do it with one heart. Football is my job.”Wasswa has featured for 11 different clubs and Al-lttihad will be his 12th.For the Cranes, the dread-locked center-half has played 76 games and is yet to find the back of the net.Wasswa’s club careerWasswa started out with KCCA FC for whom he played just a single season in 2016/07.He then joined Ethiopian giants St. George where he also played just one season before heading to South Africa and signing for FC Cape Town.In 2009, he moved over-seas to Turkey, signing for Karabukspor. At Karabuskspor, he was a main-stay in the team, playing 31 of the team’s 36 games whilst scoring one goal.After his contract was terminated by mutual consent, Wasswa then joined Altay where he featured in the 2010/11 season before moving to Kayseri Ercisspor.After one year, Wasswa was on the move again, returning to KCCA FC for who he played in the 2012/13 season.Wasswa’s trend of playing just a single season at a particular club continued and he joined Dong Nai FC of Vietnam and then SC Villa for the 2013/14 and 2014/15 seasons respectively?In 2015, he joined Al-Shorta and after one season, he was on the move once again, signing for Al Nejmeh.Once again, he lasted just one season before joining Tala’ea El Gaish.Comments
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By Kacy Mixon, M.S., LMFT & Kimberly Quinn[Flickr, Kushiyaki Couple by Tony Takitani, CC BY-ND 2.0] Retrieved on September 23, 2015We’ve discussed the importance of couple strengthening and factors affecting military couples during times of separation in previous blogs. We’ve also delved into protective factors influencing couples’ resiliency during the deployment cycle and resilience-based treatment options for couples affected by post-traumatic stress disorder. Now we will discuss another model of therapy tailored to couples struggling with post-deployment trauma.Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) or Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFTC) is an evidence-based therapy model that views emotions as a central component in the construction of self, functioning, self-organization, and the process of change . This model was created by Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg in the late 1980’s  to help individuals enhance awareness, regulation, reflection, and transformation of emotion within the context of their partnerships. The theory behind this approach to treating couples is rooted in attachment theory–a developmental psychology concept theorizing supported by empirical research that relates to the marital distress and attachment theory . There are a number of studies showing client progress with this therapy model for those struggling with depression, abuse, trauma, and decisional conflicts . Recently, this therapy approach has been adapted for use with military couples as it has shown effectiveness in helping those struggling with trauma . This particular therapy approach has been used to enhance a service member’s sense of belonging when reintegrating after deployment or separation from their loved ones. Stress related to deployment can heighten the need for secure connections with intimate partners . This therapy approach identifies interactional patterns that create distance in couple relationships. This type of therapy also provides a safe environment that fosters connection. Post-traumatic stress disorder is prevalent among military service members and can negatively affect couple and family functioning. For instance, attachment bonds in military couples are adversely affected by combat-trauma experiences . EFT utilizes three treatment stages to remedy negative effects on the relationship.Jordan, K. (2011). Counselors helping service veterans re-enter their couple relationship after combat and military services: A comprehensive overview. The Family Journal, 19(3), 263-273.Research has found that post-traumatic stress can be reduced for those utilizing emotion-focused coping strategies . Practitioners working with military families can use these techniques to equip couples in exploring emotions surrounding separation or the unique demands of military life. CategoriesFamily Development, Military Families Learning Network Tagscouples therapy, family therapy References  Greenberg, L.S. (2004). Emotion-focused therapy. Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy, 11(1), 3-16. Greenberg, L.S. & Johnson, S.M. (1988). Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. New York, NY:Guilford Press.  Elliott, R. (2012) Emotion-focused therapy. In: The tribes of the person-centered nation. PCCS Books, Ross-on-Wye, pp. 103-130. Johnson, S.M. (2002). Emotionally focused couple therapy with trauma survivors: Strengthening attachment bonds. New York, NY:Guilford Press. Jordan, K. (2011). Counselors helping service veterans re-enter their couple relationship after combat and military services: A comprehensive overview. The Family Journal, 19(3), 263-273. doi:10.1177/1066480711406689 This post was written by Kimberly Quinn, University of Florida M.Ed./Ed.S. Candidate, 1LT Florida Army National Guard and Kacy Mixon, M.S., LMFT, Social Media Specialis. Both are members of the MFLN Family Development (FD) team which aims to support the development of professionals working with military families. Find out more about the Military Families Learning Network FD concentration on our website, on Facebook, on Twitter, YouTube, and on LinkedIn.  Johnsen, B. H., Eid, J., Laberg, J. C., & Thayer, J. F. (2002). The effect of sensitization and coping style on post-traumatic stress symptoms and quality of life: Two longitudinal studies. Scandinavian Journal of Psychology, 43(2), 181-188.